KK.. i just knew this.. so perhaps im slow.. so MJ did convert to Islam last year??.. perhaps Allah (swt) did love him after all.. wallahualam..

the more i observe people.. it starts to make sense to me on how relationships actually come about and the secrets of how to make last long.. and since i dun have the luxury of calling like the usual hours in spore.. ill state it here.. this is just what i have perceived it so far and please do correct me if there are errors in it.. insha-allah we all can learn..

it all roots back to the simple.. "a guy likes a girl for who she is, and the girls actually likes a guy.. but will further change him to be someone better to her own liking" .. so how does a girl pick her guy??.. is just some basic 1st hand extraordinary 1st impression that the guy projects.. girls are emotional hence her emotions will further exaggerate this illusion of tt goodness of a guy if the guy doesn't flop it up during the assessment stage.. simple to say a girl can fall for any tom, dick or harry who creates a very impressive 1st impression..

so even after some time, when this 'good guy' makes mistake from time to time.. the girl still believes that he can still be whom she met the 1st time.. or even better if she could somehow change him.. what the girl does not realise is tt most guys are oblivious and Do Not even know this simple obvious fact.. "a guy likes a girl for who she is, and the girls actually likes a guy.. but will further change him to be someone better to her own liking"... guys being guys.. think tt girls think the same way as them.. ie. from a guys point of view tt the girl already likes him for who he is.. so when the guy realises that the girl is trying to change him.. he might think tt... WOOO.. " is there something wrong with me?? if there is.. i think she's not suitable for me coz im not good enough for her.. " guys may feel intimidated, inferior etc.. hence.. problems arise because most people do not understand this simple fact.. No?

so what are some of the girls mistakes? well .. its like this.. every guy needs space.. from time to time.. a simple analogy would be like listening to a song u really love.. u keep listening to it non stop for say 2-3 days and u get tired of it.. same here.. u cannot be hogging to a guy for continuous long periods of time.. need to know how much to give and how much to pull back so u will create this sense of "i miss you" kind of thing.. get it?

sometimes.. its just the guy luh uh.. this 1 i also not sure.. maybe over time.. he finds the girl too demanding? naggy? controlling? well.. i can tell u 1 thing.. guys are lazy and do not like to bring up things of the past by nature.. but girls have this nature of being naggy at times and trying to prove tt they are right sometimes which can be quite irritating.. lol.. its a fact.. im not spouting nonsense.. as u can see its quite clashing huh..

to further support sis naz's claim... yes.. people can get too demanding at times.. not realising tt we are all still humans.. never perfect in all ways.. sometimes when u look at some1 and match back him or her to ur minimum requirements, theres forever tt spark u are lookng for, the X factor which really determines whether he /she is the 1 for u.. and no matter how much u fall for some1.. (jatuh berlutot ker.. jatoh muke badan terbaring ker).. but he or she does not feel the same way.. then uve got to move on.. no matter how hard it is.. just seek help from the Almighty.. insha-allah got better 1 awaiting.. who knows..

in conclusion.. a guy should consider this before going for a girl.. how much would u change for a girl.. and for a girl.. before u ask a guy how much commitment or sacrifice he would input towards a relationship.. perhaps u could rephrase the qn to.. how much would u change for me? not to scare the guy off or what but perhaps tt would solve most conflicts insha-allah wallahualam.. idk u know.. thats my own perception as for now.. :) if u think im an idiot.. pls state.. chaoW!~ =)